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The anxious attachment quiz

Twelve questions about the part of anxious attachment that actually costs you evenings: waiting for a reply, deciding what silence means, and the pull to send one more message. You'll see your score straight away — no email needed to read it.

  1. Question 1

    When a reply takes longer than usual, I start looking for a reason they might be pulling away.

  2. Question 2

    I reread messages I've already sent to check how they might have landed.

  3. Question 3

    I check whether they've been active somewhere else instead of answering me.

  4. Question 4

    I draft a follow-up message before the first one has been answered.

  5. Question 5

    Silence between us feels like something is wrong, even with no other evidence.

  6. Question 6

    I need reassurance quickly, and the relief it brings doesn't last long.

  7. Question 7

    I go quiet myself to see whether they notice.

  8. Question 8

    I replay conversations looking for the moment it changed.

  9. Question 9

    My urges to reach out are strongest late at night.

  10. Question 10

    I put plans on hold depending on whether they might be available.

  11. Question 11

    I feel more settled when we're in contact and unsettled when we aren't.

  12. Question 12

    Afterwards I often wish I had waited before sending.

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