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Updates, practice notes and announcements. Written slowly, published when there is something worth saying.
Guide · August 31, 2026 · 5 min read
How to stop texting someone: texting anxiety and the pursue-withdraw loop
You do not need more willpower to stop texting someone — you need somewhere for the next twenty minutes to go. Here is how texting anxiety feeds the pursue-withdraw loop, and the five-step method that breaks it.
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Guide · August 31, 2026 · 4 min read
The anxious attachment recovery journey: what actually changes, and when
Recovery from anxious attachment is not the disappearance of the feeling. It is a shrinking gap between the urge and the choice. Here are the four stages, with what each one honestly feels like.
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Guide · August 31, 2026 · 3 min read
Attachment styles explained: secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganised
A plain guide to the four adult attachment styles — what each one is protecting, how they pair up, and why the labels are patterns rather than personality types.
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Practice · August 31, 2026 · 4 min read
Anxious attachment in real life: six scenarios and what to do in each
The read receipt, the weekend away, the vague "we need to talk", the party you were not invited to. Six situations that reliably set off anxious attachment, with a concrete script for each.
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Guide · August 31, 2026 · 4 min read
What is anxious attachment? The signs, the cost, and how to steady it
Anxious attachment is a nervous system that learned closeness is never guaranteed. Here is what it looks like day to day, what it costs, and the practice that calms it.
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Update · August 30, 2026 · 1 min read
Install it on your phone, and use it offline
Pause Protocol is now installable on iOS and Android, and the pause timer and dashboard keep working with no connection.
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Practice · August 30, 2026 · 1 min read
Three minutes is usually enough
Most urges do not need to be defeated. They need to be outlasted, and they are shorter than they feel.
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Practice · August 30, 2026 · 4 min read
How to use Pause Protocol with your partner to build trust during conflict
A practical, two-person way to use the pause timer, sealed notes and pattern history so conflict becomes information instead of damage.
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Announcement · August 28, 2026 · 1 min read
Welcome to the Pause Protocol journal
Why we built a place for updates, tips and small notes on the practice of pausing.
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Guide · August 26, 2026 · 2 min read
Emotional regulation for anxious attachment: a four-step reset
Regulation is not calm on command. It is a short, repeatable sequence that lets the spike pass before you act on it.
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Tip · August 24, 2026 · 1 min read
Reading your patterns without judging them
Three days of logs is enough to see a shape. Here is how to read the patterns screen as information rather than a verdict.
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Relationships · August 21, 2026 · 2 min read
The pursue-withdraw loop: why the same fight keeps happening
One partner moves closer to feel safe, the other moves back to feel safe. Both are protecting themselves, and the loop tightens. Here is how to step out of your half of it.
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Practice · August 19, 2026 · 1 min read
What a sealed note is for
Sealed notes are not messages you expect an answer to. They are a way of handing the weight of a moment to someone who already agreed to hold it.
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Practice · August 17, 2026 · 2 min read
Waiting for a text back: what to do with twenty minutes that feel like hours
The wait is where anxious attachment does most of its damage. A concrete plan for the specific stretch between sending and hearing back.
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