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Four rope knots tied differently, representing four attachment patterns

Guide · August 31, 2026 · 3 min read

Attachment styles explained: secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganised

A plain guide to the four adult attachment styles — what each one is protecting, how they pair up, and why the labels are patterns rather than personality types.

Attachment stylesRecovery journey

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A phone lying face-down on a dark wooden table beside a ceramic cup in warm lamplight

Guide · August 31, 2026 · 4 min read

What is anxious attachment? The signs, the cost, and how to steady it

Anxious attachment is a nervous system that learned closeness is never guaranteed. Here is what it looks like day to day, what it costs, and the practice that calms it.

Attachment stylesRecovery journeyRegulation

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Relationships · August 21, 2026 · 2 min read

The pursue-withdraw loop: why the same fight keeps happening

One partner moves closer to feel safe, the other moves back to feel safe. Both are protecting themselves, and the loop tightens. Here is how to step out of your half of it.

Pursue-withdrawAttachment styles

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