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Practice · August 31, 2026 · 2 min read
Coping strategies for anxious attachment, sorted by how bad it feels
A kit for the moment the urge is already at eight out of ten — what to do at nine, at six, and at three, and which habits quietly make the spikes worse.
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Guide · August 31, 2026 · 5 min read
How to stop texting someone: texting anxiety and the pursue-withdraw loop
You do not need more willpower to stop texting someone — you need somewhere for the next twenty minutes to go. Here is how texting anxiety feeds the pursue-withdraw loop, and the five-step method that breaks it.
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Practice · August 31, 2026 · 4 min read
Anxious attachment in real life: six scenarios and what to do in each
The read receipt, the weekend away, the vague "we need to talk", the party you were not invited to. Six situations that reliably set off anxious attachment, with a concrete script for each.
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Practice · August 30, 2026 · 4 min read
How to use Pause Protocol with your partner to build trust during conflict
A practical, two-person way to use the pause timer, sealed notes and pattern history so conflict becomes information instead of damage.
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Practice · August 17, 2026 · 2 min read
Waiting for a text back: what to do with twenty minutes that feel like hours
The wait is where anxious attachment does most of its damage. A concrete plan for the specific stretch between sending and hearing back.
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